March 15 - This Week's Quote:

“My idea of forgiveness is letting go of resentment that does not serve your better interest, ridding yourself of negative thoughts. All they do is make you miserable. Believe me, you can fret and fume all you want, but whoever it was that wronged you is not suffering from your anguish whatsoever.” – Della Reese

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That’s so true, isn’t it? We can fuss and fume, be mad or in outrage about something that somebody did or said.  We can let it ruin our day, or even years of our life, but who is the person being hurt by all this angst?

It’s US—not the other person. They're off dealing with their own stuff.

It’s US—you, me.  We are causing our own anguish.

You see, forgiveness is really not about the other person. Forgiveness is something you do for yourself.

It’s letting go of the judgment that something bad or wrong happened, and then looking at the situation from a higher, bigger picture perspective. From a spiritual reality, World of Divine Truth, as opposed to an objective reality, the world of humanity where we see only with our 5 senses.

The human experience itself is about learning and growing and letting go of all our “stuff” so that we can reach our highest potential.

The people who are most troublesome to us are our greatest teachers because they offer us the opportunity to heal by mirroring what we have rejected about ourselves, or forcing us to look at something about ourselves that we have repressed, and by keeping us on track with our mission—our purpose in life.

Think about the characters in your favorite movie or story. Things happen to them in the course of the story, typically there are three incidences, with each one getting more and more intense. And as the characters go work through these situations, by the end of the story, the characters have evolved and changed in some way.

So, imagine that you’re writing a story or a movie, and have included this incident or situation that you’re holding resentment or ill feelings about as one of the scenes. You, as author, have decided to use this particular scene to help you grow and evolve and perhaps to heal a wound from your past.

What might be the reason for this situation happening to you? Is it forcing you to look at something you’re keeping bottled up inside? Is it making you look at something about yourself that you don’t want to look at?

From this higher perspective, what would be the reason for including this incident into your life story? There’s a saying, behind every cloud there’s a silver lining. What is the silver lining—the gift—to you in this situation.

Once you look at it this way, from this World of Divine Truth, you realize that there was no mistake, there was no wrong doing.  So, in essence, there is nothing to forgive!

Life is not a random set of events without purpose or intelligence. Everything happens for a reason—we may not know or understand the reason because of our human limitations—but in the big picture scheme of things, in the World of Divine Truth, there is a purpose and a reason.

So knowing this, we can approach each moment without blame and without judgment.

The human experience is about growing and evolving, about healing our wounds and letting go of our “stuff” so that we can reach our highest potential.

So, forgiveness is really just a change in perception, stepping out of our world of humanity, stepping out of our victimhood, and letting go of our need to condemn.

Stepping back to look at things from a higher perspective, from the world of Divine Truth, where there is only love.


Blessings!

-Becky