August 18 — This Week's Quote:
“Whatever you determine to be true in the subconscious becomes true for you.” – Richard HatchPlayed: 321 | Download | Duration: 00:06:45
Your mind won’t make you a liar because whatever you determine to be true… IS true for you.
Our subconscious mind is 88% of our brain power. It holds every experience we’ve ever had – whether it was good and bad. It holds the memory of everything that has ever been said to us whether in words or actions (literally or inferred); It keeps a record of every emotion we’ve ever felt – every joy, every sadness – it doesn’t matter. It’s all information which acts as our “programming” or our life script. And from this vast array of information it brings into our experience the things that we asks for – whether consciously or unconsciously.
In essence, our subconscious mind is like a “yes” machine. And it always achieves what it’s programmed to achieve.
For example, if you have a tendency to think that people don’t like you, and a new co-worker comes on board and you say, “You know, I really don’t think that new person – let’s call her Connie – I don’t think Connie likes me.” Your subconscious mind says, okay, and immediately gets busy bringing you evidence that this new person doesn’t like you.
So the way this plays out…. maybe you just “happen” to only seem to be around Connie when she’s having a bad day, or has just gotten some upsetting news and you misread her behavior. OR, perhaps, with the attitude you’ve already set up by your thought that she doesn’t like you, you may be consciously or unconsciously holding a grudge. Or maybe since you believe she doesn’t like you, you tend to not present your best self when she’s around and she reacts in a displeasing way to you.
I know I’ve been around people who just seem to bring out the worst in me – I’ll say something or behave in a way that I wouldn’t otherwise say or do around someone else. As I’ve looked deeper into those instances, I’ve realized that underneath, I didn’t think that that person valued me or my contribution in the way I thought they should. And this made me not act or react my best around them, especially when it was an impromptu meeting.
Our thoughts and beliefs guide our actions. And our experiences mirror what’s in our subconscious mind.
The good news is that we can change our programming. It takes work, but it can be done because our mind does not make a liar out of us.
So, if instead, you say in a self-confident, loving way, “I like myself, and if Connie chooses to like me or to not like me, either way is fine. Because I value myself.”
With this kind of thought pattern, you’re more likely to keep a positive frame of mind when she’s around, or to just not be bothered if she is being less than her best. Plus, as you keep up this new thought, you’ll probably begin to notice that you’re having more pleasant interactions with her. OR you may notice that your paths don’t seem to cross as much any more.
The thing to remember is… as we think, so we are. As we believe, so we receive in our experiences. The Bible states it, “As ye sow, so shall ye reap.” Mr. Hatch reminds us that whatever we conclude to be true does indeed, turn out to be true for us.
It’s a simple truth. Your mind will not make a liar out of you. Your subconscious mind is listening to every word you say, keeping a log for future reference. That’s its job. And it will bring to your experience whatever you direct it to with your words, your thoughts, and your beliefs.
What’s coming into your experience? Do you like the results you’re getting?
If not, do a little detective work. Start becoming aware of the thoughts behind your actions and behaviors. Write them down and keep a log. Notice if you see any patterns emerging.
If you do, look beneath the patterns to the core belief and ask yourself, “Is this true?”
If you’d like support as you work through this process, I’d love to help you. I know it’s hard to see clearly when you’re in the middle of it. That’s the great thing about having a coach to support you.
Remember, your mind will not make a liar out of you because whatever you determine to be true becomes true for you.
Blessings!
Becky